It's that stigma, that belief that you did something wrong, "baby daddy drama", like having a kid makes you less appealing.
All sorts of wrong up in there, y'all.
I think it all ties into self-worth and self-image. We all carry baggage that affects us, changes us, and shapes us. The situation with C rocked my world. My plans of the pickett fence, one boy & one girl, a little suburban family VANISHED before my eyes! Even though I damn well know his addiction and decision to leave had nothing to do with me, I didn't believe it. I was down, broken, and in shock...and I stayed that way for the past 2 years.
Through dating this has haunted me. I've date guys who just weren't right. I've accepted less than standard treatment. I've put up with a fair share of bull shit. But that's enough about that!
In the past week or so I've started to believe. Believe that I deserve better. Believe that I'm worth more. Believe that I'm not broken! It's been quite empowering. I spent a lot of time lately reflecting on self worth, both my own and those around me. We don't give ourselves enough credit and we surely don't encourage each other enough. Just because you have a past doesn't mean you deserve the best now. If anything, as a single mom you deserve some praise.
I'm raising a kid on my own. My child that I expected to raise with his father along side. I'm the one who was left behind and instead of feeling broken and left over...I'm changing my outlook!
I'm not broken.
I'm not "less than".
Most of all? I didn't chose to be a single mom and the fact that I am doesn't mean that I'm less appealing to men. Which means I shouldn't sell myself short and settle for being treated poorly...next please!
It's a new mindset. I'm not broken. I'm ME!
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